Grown Men
Michelle on Jul 02 2008 at 2:42 pm | Filed under: The Kids, The Personal
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I’ve been having these little anxiety attacks for two days. They started yesterday, the official day that Sky turned 18. I know that it is most likely related in some way, although how, I’m not quite sure.
I operate using the philosophy of “if you love something let it go, and if it loves you (or is totally broke) then it will come back to you”. This has not worked out well with men in general, but it did with my son, and he didn’t even have to be broke to decide he wanted to live here again.
So I guess what I’m trying to say is that we’ve already done the whole moving out thing–a year early–and he came back, and is still living here, so I don’t get what the big deal is. Maybe it’s the whole “OMG I’m the mom of a grown man” thing. I really don’t know.
I just dropped him off at the bus station so that he could go to San Antonio to visit his ex-girlfriend that gave him a pregnancy scare a couple of years ago. He won’t tell his dad he is going because he knows his dad will call him a fool. Yes, it is a foolish thing for him to be doing, but calling him foolish is not going to stop him from doing it. We talked about it, and he knows he is doing something stupid, but feels compelled anyway. It’s difficult to watch kids go through these things. At least she’s shipping out with the Navy in a week.
I’m done thinking about this, at least for the moment. I took some photos this morning. Here is a cute kitty picture. Varmint spent half the day under the house yesterday, and came back so happy and content. All she needed to do was return to her trashy wild kitty roots instead of living in a sterile apartment to be happy…
Here’s one of Sky and Sage. They love each other so much it blows my mind. No competition or ugly stuff–just admiration and love.
And here’s a pot of flowers. I have one on each side of the front steps going up to the porch. I bought the pots and flowers before I even got paint to start fixing up rooms in the house. A girl’s got to have priorities, and they make me happy.
Those are amazing flower pots and flowers! They would certainly add to the ambiance of a home. I got weirded out when Alison turned 18 too. It’s the beginning of adulthood which is both scary for us and for them! Hope Sky has a good visit with the ex; you have to pick your battles with adult children and that’s not one I would fight either.
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Amazing. I guess in a little over 18 years I’ll be feeling similar feelings. My mind runs wild with thoughts of what our son will be like, look like, etc. still, so it’s hard to think so very far into the future.
You have a cute kitty there! I’ve contemplated letting ours run a little wild outside. I don’t think either of them would actually enjoy it, though. Kanji enjoys chittering at birds and bugs, but has never set foot outside and would probably be scared of his own shadow. Noni is *quite* content in living indoors as she spent 8 years of her life outside and was caught in the middle of Hurricane Katrina before I rescued her. She has no desire what-so-ever to step foot outside again.
I love your flower pots and your pretty, pink flowers! I can’t wait to move into our house (soon!) so I can start nesting. It’s driving me crazy. LOL!
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I’m an only child, so I always find sibling relationships weird: love, hatred, indifference… Good to hear that your kids get along.
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The cat’s eyes almost look painted on!
Bond between brothers are beautiful. Oh damn, I didn’t mean to use that many B words in the same sentence.
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The flower pots are very cool and I like Varmint’s eyes in that picture (they are a little bit freaky-ish though) but I hope Sky has a good trip.
I guess visiting ex’s is just something that people have a tendancy to want to do from time to time because I know I’ve done the same thing, although I’ve never done anything totally out of the way or had to work in significant amounts of time in my schedule in order to say hi and reconnect.
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Great flowers, and yes, a girl has to have priorities. And if it makes you happy then go for it!
Sorry you are having some anxiety. Any new milestone in life tends to bring subconcious junk up for some strange reason. I guess in about 16 1/2 more years I’ll understand some of your feelings too. Strange to even say say 16 years as it seems my kiddos just got here. Time flies.
Love the way the house is coming along and the new blog look. Haven’t stopped by in a while. You’ve done so much!