http://singingthesky.com/writing/2007/12/13/need-advice-on-the-sage-front/ and rockin' tha house Tue, 06 Jan 2009 06:15:28 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.2 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2007/12/13/need-advice-on-the-sage-front/#comment-5349 Margaret Wed, 19 Dec 2007 05:00:26 +0000 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2007/12/13/need-advice-on-the-sage-front/#comment-5349 Finding ways to get him engaged with kids who share his interests and ideas is key. I don't know where they could be found--clubs, activities, etc...Unique children do get punished in this world. Our older daughter is like that, even at 21. It's hard to know how to help/advise. Finding ways to get him engaged with kids who share his interests and ideas is key. I don’t know where they could be found–clubs, activities, etc…Unique children do get punished in this world. Our older daughter is like that, even at 21. It’s hard to know how to help/advise.

]]> http://singingthesky.com/writing/2007/12/13/need-advice-on-the-sage-front/#comment-5238 Tonya Sat, 15 Dec 2007 02:21:50 +0000 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2007/12/13/need-advice-on-the-sage-front/#comment-5238 It's so tough...I do think Ken had some good ideas. I wasn't "all that and a bag of chips" throughout school, either, but I had some strengths and interests (like writing and also playing in the band) and those things kept me grounded, sane, and provided a wealth of friendships as the years went by. Those interests and the friends I made through them, defined my self-esteem. It’s so tough…I do think Ken had some good ideas. I wasn’t “all that and a bag of chips” throughout school, either, but I had some strengths and interests (like writing and also playing in the band) and those things kept me grounded, sane, and provided a wealth of friendships as the years went by. Those interests and the friends I made through them, defined my self-esteem.

]]> http://singingthesky.com/writing/2007/12/13/need-advice-on-the-sage-front/#comment-5234 mary Fri, 14 Dec 2007 16:36:19 +0000 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2007/12/13/need-advice-on-the-sage-front/#comment-5234 Are there any non-school groups he could join? Like a community soccer league or something that interests him? You may be able to help coach him too in ways to socialize with his peers - things to say to kids, etc. And anything to help build his confidence, because then the mean kids and meanness may bother him less. Unfortunately, he could be the most popular kid ever and the next few years may still be hard! Adolescence sucks! Good luck, mom! Are there any non-school groups he could join? Like a community soccer league or something that interests him? You may be able to help coach him too in ways to socialize with his peers - things to say to kids, etc. And anything to help build his confidence, because then the mean kids and meanness may bother him less. Unfortunately, he could be the most popular kid ever and the next few years may still be hard! Adolescence sucks! Good luck, mom!

]]> http://singingthesky.com/writing/2007/12/13/need-advice-on-the-sage-front/#comment-5209 Pacian Thu, 13 Dec 2007 20:26:39 +0000 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2007/12/13/need-advice-on-the-sage-front/#comment-5209 I don't know what to do when an adult doesn't fit in.... I don’t know what to do when an adult doesn’t fit in….

]]> http://singingthesky.com/writing/2007/12/13/need-advice-on-the-sage-front/#comment-5195 Ken Albin Thu, 13 Dec 2007 01:51:46 +0000 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2007/12/13/need-advice-on-the-sage-front/#comment-5195 I can sympathize with everything you are saying. I was also a misfit growing up, being chosen last for most games and generally ignored when I wasn't being picked on. At Sage's age kids are like a pack of wolves. They go after anyone who acts the least bit independent or different. Now that I think of it, calling them wolves may be demeaning to our furry friends. What got me out of this bind was participating in plays, joining clubs I was interested in , and doing creative writing for the school publications. Find school activities that fits Sage's personality and encourage him to get involved. It will do a world of good for his self esteem and begin to show others that he has special gifts that are valuable. If he can't 'join the group', then the next best thing is to make his own group through his interests and talents. When I started a chess club I saw all of those misfits who reminded me of myself years ago. A couple of tournaments with publicity and these kids were being asked by others about their games. They really felt good about themselves. Sage needs this type of interaction. You probably have a good handle on his strengths so you can gently encourage him to pursue things that will enhance his school life. I hope these thoughts will help you in some small way to resolve this. I can sympathize with everything you are saying. I was also a misfit growing up, being chosen last for most games and generally ignored when I wasn’t being picked on. At Sage’s age kids are like a pack of wolves. They go after anyone who acts the least bit independent or different. Now that I think of it, calling them wolves may be demeaning to our furry friends. What got me out of this bind was participating in plays, joining clubs I was interested in , and doing creative writing for the school publications. Find school activities that fits Sage’s personality and encourage him to get involved. It will do a world of good for his self esteem and begin to show others that he has special gifts that are valuable. If he can’t ‘join the group’, then the next best thing is to make his own group through his interests and talents. When I started a chess club I saw all of those misfits who reminded me of myself years ago. A couple of tournaments with publicity and these kids were being asked by others about their games. They really felt good about themselves. Sage needs this type of interaction. You probably have a good handle on his strengths so you can gently encourage him to pursue things that will enhance his school life. I hope these thoughts will help you in some small way to resolve this.

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