I Do So Like To Do Things!
Michelle on Jul 03 2007 at 3:31 pm | Filed under: The Personal
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This morning, I called Stubeh to ask if he would take Sage to the 4th of July festival downtown tomorrow evening so Sage could see the fireworks. Stubeh loves these things, I don’t, which I mentioned. Fireworks are not my thing unless I am the one setting them off. Neither are small town downtown festivals, especially since I’ve now been to approximately 26 of them in the past two years.
At any rate, Stubeh said to me, “What is it you DO like to do?”
I didn’t give that question the consideration it didn’t deserve anyway, and told him, “Nothing, I guess.”
Jeez what a lame answer.
Of course, after hanging up the phone, I thought of scads of things I like to do.
1. Go salsa dancing, two left feet and all. With the right partner, I can look like a star. Watching others dance is fun too. Here, we have one club that features ranchero, salsa and cumbias. Unfortunately, there are knife fights in the parking lot every weekend. Nevermind.
2. Take kids to the park.
3. Hang out at bookstores.
4. Hang out at coffeeshops, either with friends or alone.
5. Learn stuff. If my schedule permitted, I’d take a class every semester. Probably Spanish and/or other foreign languages. Maybe physics. Definitely economics.
6. Go to the beach and look for cool stuff, enjoy the waves and catch some rays. I also spend a great deal of time at the pool either swimming, reading a book, yakking or writing down other people’s yakking in my notebook.
7. I like to write, a lot.
8. Bake stuff. This has taken a back seat to my weight loss efforts, though. Instead, I am working on cooking decent Chinese and Indian food.
9. Organize stuff. This sounds really lame, but I like to do it. A trip to Office Depot is like being in a candy store for me.
10. Go to parties where I know people. These days, that usually consists of barbecues and kid’s birthday parties, but still. Actually, these days, any party at all doesn’t happen often. I miss my friends in Austin. Doesn’t mean that I don’t still enjoy them, though.
11. Read. I really, really like reading. And being on the computer. So I can read.
12. Do fun stuff with my students, because they learn better and I am not so bored.
13. Go to comedy clubs. Dance performances. Really good plays.
14. Constantly brainstorm business ideas that rarely get implemented.
15. Hang out with friends. Am doing this later today.
16. Hang out with my kids.
So, I do a lot of “hanging out” and a lot of wishing I was back in the town where I went to performances now and then because they existed.
Maybe his comment hit a nerve because I am afraid that I really am boring. I’m sure to some people, this would seem to be the case. After all, lots of what I enjoy are things that are solitary pursuits. I’ve been that way since I was a kid. Oh well. I don’t really want to change other than to throw traveling into that mix.
No, I have not divorced Stubeh. We are not together, but I chickened out. I don’t even want to go into the reasons why, because you guys would blast me good.
I get it. I was really trying to get R to hangout with me at a coffeeshop, have a yummy drink and maybe read. He never wants to do that with me. The closest we came was stopping for a drink and ending up going to a sushi restaurant. That was fun, though.
Stubeh shouldn’t be one to criticize. [Insert Stubeh rant here.] I’d love to go salsa dancing, walking on the beach, or just hanging out with you anytime.
[Fireworks are overrated if you’re older than 12.]
He was trying to hurt you and hit you on a sensitive spot. Most of us would list exactly what you did. There are few people who are interested in skydiving, rock climbing, etc…NORMAL people work/ live their lives and have a few hobbies in what little “free” time they have. P.S. I dislike fireworks too. They’ve been booming here since last week.
You have a good list of things to do there. Now I’ll tell you the same thing I tell myself when I get in a blue funk and sit around. “Get off your duff and just do it!”
Compared to that, I don’t do very many things at all.
Given what JP and I went through, you will not receive any condemnation from either one of us regarding the choices that work for you.
Hang in there and be true to the voices in your head, your hert, and your soul.
– f
Nah, we won’t blast you for not yet divorcing Stubeh (I love that you call him that! wink!). You have your own path with him … and you will reach your destination (whatever that may be) when you’re ready. You do like to do a lot of things! His question was really posed to you for a thoughtful response, he was just trying to put you down. For that, I would like to blast him. xx, JP