Comments on: Happy Christmas Family http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/ and rockin' tha house Fri, 21 Nov 2008 04:43:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.2 By: papyrus http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-51 papyrus Thu, 30 Nov 2006 05:30:10 +0000 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-51 Michelle, it's perfectly normal for you to want your marriage to work. And it is possible for things to change. But I do think you both need to understand the importance of committing to each other for it to do so. You have to be strong here. Your husband can't have it both ways. He has to understand that he can't keep on seeing someone else, and you have to be strong here. Michelle, it’s perfectly normal for you to want your marriage to work. And it is possible for things to change. But I do think you both need to understand the importance of committing to each other for it to do so. You have to be strong here. Your husband can’t have it both ways. He has to understand that he can’t keep on seeing someone else, and you have to be strong here.

]]> By: Ken Albin http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-48 Ken Albin Thu, 30 Nov 2006 03:01:47 +0000 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-48 Wow, I don't know if I'm the right person to comment on this post. I think it is admirable that you want the relationship to work. If he wants the same thing then you both will find a way. I've been with my wife for 39 years total but we've had our bad times as well. I suppose the key is to find a reason to stay that doesn't make you want to run screaming into the night with feelings of self-betrayal. Life is full of choices and ultimately you have to do what makes you complete and happy. May you find that path, Michelle. Wow, I don’t know if I’m the right person to comment on this post. I think it is admirable that you want the relationship to work. If he wants the same thing then you both will find a way. I’ve been with my wife for 39 years total but we’ve had our bad times as well. I suppose the key is to find a reason to stay that doesn’t make you want to run screaming into the night with feelings of self-betrayal. Life is full of choices and ultimately you have to do what makes you complete and happy. May you find that path, Michelle.

]]> By: Gary http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-47 Gary Thu, 30 Nov 2006 02:04:17 +0000 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-47 I wish I could offer you some advice, but I really don't have any. I definately don't think you are making a mistake to try to work things out, though. If you can patch it up and make it work, both of you will be the better off for it. I'm wishing you the best. I wish I could offer you some advice, but I really don’t have any. I definately don’t think you are making a mistake to try to work things out, though. If you can patch it up and make it work, both of you will be the better off for it. I’m wishing you the best.

]]> By: Tonya http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-46 Tonya Thu, 30 Nov 2006 01:41:34 +0000 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-46 I hope it works out for you, too. You both need to want it to work, though -- and the help/counseling that Wende talked about would likely be a very positive step. And if it isn't destined to work out they way you want, counseling can help you get through that, too. (Yeah, been there...) I hope it works out for you, too. You both need to want it to work, though — and the help/counseling that Wende talked about would likely be a very positive step. And if it isn’t destined to work out they way you want, counseling can help you get through that, too. (Yeah, been there…)

]]> By: Lee Anne http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-45 Lee Anne Tue, 28 Nov 2006 19:45:04 +0000 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-45 There is nothing wrong with wanting your marriage to work! You know all of us will stand behind you. And Wende is right, you can come back stronger than you ever thought possible but it is a lot of work. But then again all marriages are. Mike and I almost split up when we moved to NC. There was so much stress between the move, work for him, me finding a decent job there, and my father passing away. But you know, we worked it all out and we have the strongest relationship. I never thought I could have this type of marriage but it happened. It can happen for you too...both of you have to work on it though and it sounds like you are. Sending you all my best and lots of hugs and support! There is nothing wrong with wanting your marriage to work! You know all of us will stand behind you. And Wende is right, you can come back stronger than you ever thought possible but it is a lot of work. But then again all marriages are. Mike and I almost split up when we moved to NC. There was so much stress between the move, work for him, me finding a decent job there, and my father passing away. But you know, we worked it all out and we have the strongest relationship. I never thought I could have this type of marriage but it happened. It can happen for you too…both of you have to work on it though and it sounds like you are. Sending you all my best and lots of hugs and support!

]]> By: Wende http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-44 Wende Tue, 28 Nov 2006 17:15:13 +0000 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-44 Michelle--if you need this for you, then you should do it. I will tell you from my own marriage, that you can come back from the brink--stronger than you imagined. But, it doesn't happen overnight or without more work than conceivable. It takes TONS of talking. In retrospect, I wish we had gotten help sooner. And we've vowed never to go through that process w/o help again. Like Margaret, I'm holding good thoughts and love--remember to take care of YOU in the process. Michelle–if you need this for you, then you should do it. I will tell you from my own marriage, that you can come back from the brink–stronger than you imagined. But, it doesn’t happen overnight or without more work than conceivable. It takes TONS of talking. In retrospect, I wish we had gotten help sooner. And we’ve vowed never to go through that process w/o help again.

Like Margaret, I’m holding good thoughts and love–remember to take care of YOU in the process.

]]> By: mary http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-43 mary Tue, 28 Nov 2006 16:43:10 +0000 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-43 It is important to give it a good try at making it work. Otherwise, you'll always have that "what if" question in your mind. I'll always be on your side, whatever you decide. Love isn't always easy, and maybe loving someone is deciding to stick it out with a person through thick and thin. Keep us updated. It is important to give it a good try at making it work. Otherwise, you’ll always have that “what if” question in your mind. I’ll always be on your side, whatever you decide. Love isn’t always easy, and maybe loving someone is deciding to stick it out with a person through thick and thin. Keep us updated.

]]> By: Margaret http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-42 Margaret Tue, 28 Nov 2006 06:02:37 +0000 http://singingthesky.com/writing/2006/11/28/13/#comment-42 You are an amazingly wonderful, and caring person. I hope it works out; if it means so much and you care for him, you NEED to try to make it work. (without destroying yourself in the process) I completely understand. Sending you all my good thoughts and love! You are an amazingly wonderful, and caring person. I hope it works out; if it means so much and you care for him, you NEED to try to make it work. (without destroying yourself in the process) I completely understand. Sending you all my good thoughts and love!

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